Sometimes we think that fun should just happen. But what happens when it doesn’t? Is your relationship doomed? Absolutely not! You just have to try these 15 fun and easy ideas for having fun in your relationship. Let’s get started.
Set the intention to have fun
At the beginning of your relationship, fun probably did come easily, but now that you’ve been together for a while, there’s more routine and less surprise.
That means you have to set the intention to have fun and schedule it in, just like you would other priorities.
Shooting for more date nights is a great way to be intentional about having fun. In fact, this study from the University at Virginia found that couples who have one “date night” a week are 3.5 times more likely to enjoy sex.
Go back in time
Do you miss the good old days with your boo? Why not recreate fun moments you’ve shared before? Where was your first date? What did you use to do together? If you were both in school or hadn’t grown in your careers yet, chances are your early dates were pretty simple and budget-friendly.
Hot dog stands, milkshakes, movies and coffee dates were probably your go-to date material. It can be fun to try these things again.
Kissing might have started out passionate, but now it might be pretty commonplace. But whatever you do, don’t stop kissing!
According to psychologist and dating coach, Dr. Samanatha Rodman, eye contact and kissing your partner “shows that you prioritize your relationship even during the busiest of mornings or evenings.”
Kissing is a gift you give exclusively to each other. It’s a way to connect physically and emotionally, so be sure to keep kisses a part of your daily routine.
The longer you’re with someone, the better you know them, right? You know all his quirks and idiosyncrasies. These unique characteristics are what make him stand out from the rest, so be sure you embrace and welcome these little oddities. It can help you fall in love with your partner all over again.
Talk about money
“Fighting over money is one of the top reasons for divorce,” according to psychologist and counselor, Kurt Smith.
So, don’t shy away from money talk. You might think money doesn’t have much of a place in your discussions, but every successful team (whether that’s a huge corporation, a non-profit or a small business venture) has to talk about money. Your marriage is no exception.
Talking about money doesn’t have to be a shame-filled experience. Try to look at it as a neutral component that is necessary in your relationship.
Build on the Positive
Even if you love your partner, there are definitely things that drive you crazy about him. That’s normal, but try not to focus your energy on these negatives.
Instead, be intentional about focusing on the positive. What do you love about him? How does he make you smile? Reward him for these things and thank him for being so wonderful. This positive reinforcement can help increase positivity and create more fun.
Commit to phone-free time
Smart phones have claimed a bonafide place in our relationships. But if you want to spend quality time with your partner, put that phone down, or at least on airplane mode. Constant notifications will only distract you from each other and infringe upon your quality time, whether that’s a date night or diner.
It’s the little things that count
Happy couples don’t reinvent the wheel to stay happy together. Happy couples know that it’s the little things that count. A fresh cup of coffee in the morning, a batch of your homemade chocolate chip cookies, his favorite body wash. It doesn’t have to be expensive or extraordinary to count.
Doing the everyday things can help your partner feel appreciated, noticed and loved.
You have to know how to communicate about issues in the relationship if you want to have fun in it. When you choose to communicate calmly, fairly, and only about the current issue, you create foundations for more fun and enjoyment.
Speak up! Your partner can’t read your mind
Communication is essential if you want to have fun in your relationship. So, don’t expect your partner to know what you want and need. Only you do, and it’s up to you to communicate that. If you need to say, “No” instead of “Yes”, say it! If you disagree, be tactful and argue your point. Just don’t expect him to know everything. It’s your responsibility to speak up.
If you both are active and athletic, and feel comfortable working out together, this can be a great way to have more fun with each other. That’s because “endorphins from exercise give you an adrenaline rush that boosts arousal,” says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., marriage researcher and author. So, exercising will not only make you more fit, but more sexy, too.
Don’t Get Stuck in a Rut
It’s easy to fall into the comfort of daily routine, and we have to. The familiarity is important for our stability and security. But it’s important to try something new, too. This can include restaurants, different areas of your town or city, cuisines, museums, or even planning a surprise date for him.
Even if it’s more appealing to sit in and watch Netflix, resist the temptation and expose each other to new and different experiences. It will prompt new conversations, ideas and appreciation for each other.
Be social with or without your partner
You enjoy your partner’s company, but make sure you enjoy other people’s company, too. After all, familiarity breeds contempt. And if you always and only spend time with your partner, you put too much pressure on him to make you happy and fulfill all your social needs. What’s more, when you spend time away, it’s nice to miss someone and be excited to return to him.
Keep sex fun
Sex is an exclusive part of your relationship but it too can fall into a rut and become routine. So, keep sex from becoming boring by creating excitement and novelty within it. Is there a new position you want to try? Say so! You can try sex in a different room, or location to enrich your intimate moments.
Say “Thank you!”
Showing gratitude is easy but it makes a huge impact. When you show that you’re grateful to your partner with a simply “Thank you!” You show him that you notice his actions and that they mean something to you. This will encourage him to keep doing them. Saying thank you always helps you focus on the positive rather than on the negative. This can help you have more fun in your relationship.
Having fun can help your relationship stay fresh. With these 15 easy suggestions, you can start creating more enjoyment with your partner.