When Brett Kavanaugh was asked about his high-school yearbook's entry that referred to something called “Devil's Triangle”, many people were baffled since, despite Kavanaugh's claim that to be a drinking game, many knew the truth about the slang term: it actually means three-way intercourse between two men and one woman, also referred to as MFM or Devil's Threesome.
MFM is a not-so-loved threesome in the way that mostly when threesome is discussed, many instantly think about the ‘traditional' threesome between one man and two women.
This strong stigma and double standards are starting to fade though and both men and women are finding MFM to be an exciting way to spice up their sex life in a very unique intriguing way.
Where does the term ‘Devil's Triangle/Devil's Threesome' originate?
While many people didn't know much about the term before Kavanaugh's controversial yearbook entry, the term is speculated to originate from religious myths.
It's said that the devil had a forked member, so when pleasing a woman, the devil penetrated the woman's vagina and anus at the same time, exactly as would happen in three-way intercourse with two men being involved.
Though there might be alternative explanations to the terms' actual origins, that one seems to be the most common one, explaining the essence of this interesting act.
Devil's Threesome is the one sexual act that men and women tend to have different views on
The main issue revolving around the Devil's Threesome is the difference of opinions when it comes to the opposite sexes.
Generally, women tend to enjoy the idea of MFM for one simple reason: it provides them a chance to have two men satisfying all of their needs at the same time, hitting more pleasure centers and giving the fulfilling feeling of having men ‘servicing' them.
This kind of threesome can feel very liberating and empowering for women, contrary to the more ‘traditional' threesome where two women are pleasuring one man.
Devil's Threesome is, in a way, one of the many ways to empower your femininity and level the playing field. Instead of being the one ‘providing the service', you can be the one enjoying every single bit of the service and feel how two men are giving their best in order to give you the pleasure of your lifetime.
Men, however, are not such big fans of the idea and see the idea of MFM as a definite deal-breaker in the relationship, even to the point of breaking up.
For some, the major issue arises from the female partner's wish to include a third party to the mix which might indicate dissatisfaction with the relationship. For others, the thought of sharing intimacy with another male is daunting and extremely unappealing.
People are different though and there are some men who have claimed the experience having been arousing instead. Franklin Veaux, the co-author of “More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” said: “It's a powerful experience to see your lover in ecstasy, and working together with someone else to bring that about is…well, awesome.”
Many men have shared that opinion, saying it's actually satisfying for them to see their partner being so aroused and that was the case even when both male participants were straight.
The bottom line: what works for some, might not work for others and vice versa. While the idea of MFM intercourse might be appealing to some men, others might be stunned by the outlook of sharing bedroom joys with another guy or they might be even distressed by the idea.
How to introduce the idea of MFM to your partner
If you're in a long-term relationship, trying MFM with your partner might be an interesting way to spice up the relationship, but it's clearly not a subject that's easy to bring up since many guys might not be too keen on trying it.
So what's there to do? Here are a few things to keep in mind.
Explain what MFM is all about and what you expect to get out of the experience
Devil's Threesome might scare guys for 2 reasons:
- he is afraid you're not happy in the relationship and are looking for ways how to have sexual intercourse with someone else without cheating on him; the whole idea of MFM can feel threatening for him;
- he is afraid he'll need to experience male-on-male sexual actions which can feel intimidating and very unappealing for straight men.
If you mention the idea of an MFM threesome to your partner and he seems to feel uncomfortable, ask him about his doubts. If either of those two reasons is casting some shadows on him, the problem is easy to solve.
Explain to him that it's a sexual fantasy of yours and it's in no way an indication of your dissatisfaction, but you'd just like to experience it.
Secondly, MFM doesn't have to be an all-way-three-way. As for many women, the main reason behind wishing to encounter a Devil's Threesome is the idea of having two men pleasing you, you can explain that to your partner, making it clear that in no way is there a need for him to have sexual interaction with the other guy as well.
Pleasing you is the goal! If he understands the expectations, the idea might be easier for him to handle.
Explain what he might get out of it
MFM can be an exciting and arousing experience for guys as well, even if at the first look it doesn't seem that way.
Many men have talked about their Devil's Threesome experiences actually being surprisingly good because they enjoyed their partner getting a ‘supreme satisfaction' out of the experience.
It can be a turn-on to see the partner having a very good time, but this mostly works only for those, who have a knack for that type of sexual interactions or who enjoy that kind of porn.
However, it's worth explaining to your partner that MFM can be enjoyable for him too!
Try other things first
If the idea of MFM is uncomfortable to your partner, then perhaps trying some other unique sexual activities might work as well, especially if the main reason for you to try the Devil's Threesome is spicing up things in the bedroom.
There are plenty of other things to try, starting from food-related sex games, roleplay, vibrators and toys (like the Lovense Lush which is widely loved), and many other things that can bring much-needed energy to your sexual life.
When you find yourself longing for some MFM action, the question you should think about is why you want to do it. Is it because you just want to mix things up? Or is it because you are, in fact, really not satisfied with your relationship?
If the answer is the first option, MFM can be an interesting way to spice things up and it can definitely be enjoyable for all those involved.
